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Why Men Go to Strip Clubs

Sunday, 9 January 2011 Leave a Comment


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For us women the idea of their man attending some backstreet perv parlour is just disgusting. Just the thought of some half naked, greased up, lap dancer waving her over inflated beach ball breasts in our man's face repulses us. But should it?

Some would argue that it's a man's basic instinct to look at attractive women, that may be correct but does that means he should actively seek it out, by going to a bar where the Panty Dropper isn't just the name of a cocktail?

Let's turn the situation around. Your friend offers you tickets to go see the Chippendale's waggle their hunky man pecks and stride around in less than a g-string, would you turn them down? Probably not, and this has less to do with perving at men, than it would be a fun night out with the girls right?

So why do men go to strip clubs?
They go to see attractive women naked. It's as simple as that. It's a guilt free way to perv at women. Those breast aren't attached to a nagging wife or girlfriend, they're attached to a woman who has no real identity, she is an object of lust, nothing more, and men like it that way. They don't have to take Candy Luscious Legs home or look after her when shes ill, she won't tell him she's too tired or nag him about the washing up. She will continue strutting her stuff until the cash runs out.

It also has a lot to do with power, these days men don't have much control over the women in their lives, us women do what we want and when we want. In a strip club the men feel like they have power, the more money they throw the better the show.

Yes going to a strip club is trashy, seedy and we'd rather not allow it, but can we really be mad at him? Probably yes, but it's lot less worse than him going to normal bar and being chatted up by various women who are prowling for a man, where he has the option to take it further. The strippers aren't interested in stealing your man, oh no Barbara Big Breasts doesn't want to steal what's in his pants, just what's in his wallet.

What are your thoughts? Would you be angry if your man visited a strip club?

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  • Jewels said:  

    It's easy for me to answer this because I'm single and therefore have no man to worry about...however I don't think I would be upset. I have no problem with strip clubs for exactly the reasons you listed. Those women are not interested in "my man" as anything other than a money source...however the women at bars are out to score and usually don't care if they guys is in a relationship already. Also I don't see it as anything more threatening than porn. He's going out there, getting hot and bothered and then he'll come home to me. What harm is there in that? I get the benefit from it, right?

    I do think it's funny that they feel they have power there when really it is the dancers who hold all the power. All in all there is no harm done. Would I prefer he not go...sure...but I have no issue with him going as long as it's not a weekly thing or an addiction. I don't need him throwing "our" money at strippers if we have a home to take care of. Of course this is all hypothetical. :-)

  • Alice X said:  

    @Jewels Firstly: Fantastic comment, props!

    Secondly: I agree it's only an illusion of power, they feel they have the money that controls the show, however it's really the dancers that hold the power.

    Thirdly: I think if it was a one off or a lads night out i wouldn't be too cross, but like you said if it turned into a regular occurrence and he was wasting money then i'd have to re-evaluate.

    Thanks for commenting.

  • J.Ashley said:  

    I have no problem with it. None of that stuff really matters to me

  • Lizzie said:  

    I oddly really like strip clubs and don't mind my men going BUT, on the other hand, I'm usually with them. I figure, they're never going to see big boobs on me - might as well let them see them on someone else from time to time :).

  • "M" said:  

    I'm lucky in that my man doesn't like to go to strip clubs because he thinks they are sleazy. I also feel this way... Even though it's not "cheating" (but from what I hear if you pay enough it can be) it's a bit unnerving to think about a naked woman rubbing up on my man. I wouldn't appreciate a girl dancing dangerously close with my man at a regular club, so I definitely don't appreciate a naked one rubbing herself on him with the intention of arousing. Maybe that's old fashioned, but that's how I feel about it.

  • Jewels said:  

    Alice X-I have given you an award over at my place. Pop over to get it. :-)

  • Thank, Q said:  

    Nice! Great job on this! Everything you said was pretty accurate to me.

  • Alice X said:  

    @J.Ashley It's nice that you are laid back about it

    @Lizzie Go you! Going with them is pretty brave, i'm not sure i could handle that if i'm honest.

    @"M" Really? If you pay enough? Well that would change things. It should be strictly look but don't touch otherwise i'm not ok with that.

    @Jewels Thanks a billion times!

    @Thank, Q Great name by the way. I'm really glad to get a male opinion on this so thanks for stopping by and commenting.

  • Thank, Q said:  

    A strip club is "safer" than a nightclub just like you said. No man (some boys, maybe, but not "men") go into a strip club thinking he's taking Trixie home. But, when he goes into a nightclub/bar, it's a totally different mentality.

    I think it's refreshing to see someone put it in a way that women can get it. You've earned yourself a follower and a FB fan.

  • Alice X said:  

    @Thank, Q Thank you!!! You have no idea how great it is to hear a mans opinion on this topic, i usually write about topics in a humorous way (to be taken with a pich of salt) but i felt this topic deserved a more serious tone. Thanks for following and fb! It's really appreciated. I'll be stopping by your blog.

  • Queenie said:  

    I'm on the fence about this one. It depends on who I am dating, and it all has to do with intent. There are unspoken innuendos when it comes to going to strip clubs. Maybe it's not the actually 'titty looking' that drives women mad but what it is actually conveying.

    1) Your vagina is old and I need new vagina.
    2) You suck in bed and I need to get aroused.
    3) You bore me and I need excitement.

    or it could be as simple as

    4) I like to see titties bounce.

    I don't mind seeing a tit or two bounce as long as that is the ultimate reason but when it bleeds over into our sexual relationship then I would take it personal.

  • Alice X said:  

    @Queenie Yeah i see your point, as long as they don't go as a replacement to the woman in their lives then it can be excused. It could be a sign that you have issues in the relationship that need working out.

  • Anonymous said:  

    I am a stripper, and men from all walks of life all have different reasons for going to a strip club.Whether it be lonelyness not getting any at home, or just need to let off a little steam.Its just a night out of visual entertainment.They can feel immersed in the sexiness of the club and its all harmless.The only thing they go home with is a greater appreciation of the true beauty of a women's body big or little.It's all harmless fun.My job is to entertain and hopefully cheer someone up whatever kind of day they've had.:] xx Nevaeh

  • Alice X said:  

    @Anonymous Thank you so much for taking the time to add your opinion. It's great to hear from someone who knows from first hand experience. I suppose the atmosphere (sexiness) may be another factor, i'd never considered that before. Is it also a social experience? They get to chat with women without feeling pressured to impress perhaps. Thank you for commenting.

  • Anonymous said:  

    When we women see male strippers we scream and shout and find it exciting and funny. They do not strip in a way that makes us want to desperately be penetrated by their penises. They dance in a more than a fun way. When females strip they sometimes strip naked show there open vagina and anus in very sexual movements, that makes want to desperately put their penis inside them. They are very very sexual for me crossing a line. So no, for me its not the same as when we see a male stripper show.

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