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Why Men Cheat

Sunday, 8 May 2011 Leave a Comment

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If variety is the spice of life then is it possible for human beings to be completely satisfied in monogamous relationships?

There are many possible reasons that men would cheat. Some men find it particularly difficult to refrain from cheating and often seek sexual gratification elsewhere, but why? Why do guys cheat on their wife/girlfriend?

It's in his jeans genes
It is argued that men are genetically programmed to reproduce and spread their seed as far as possible and find it more difficult than women to sustain a long-term monogamous relationship.

It's like watching paint dry
Men who aren't sexually satisfied will often stray. Perhaps they are looking for a more sexually adventurous partner, or maybe they have a desire to try something new and are too embarrassed to ask their partner. Whatever the reason it boils down to one thing, boredom. Men get bored of routines and if things are getting repetitive they may look for ways to spice things up.

His little black book
The most selfish reason why men cheat is to boost their ego. Some men like to show off their sexual conquests and want to feel like they can have any woman they want. These men view their sexual encounters as conquests, just another notch on the bedpost and something they can brag to their friends about. Finding that women still find them sexually attractive boosts their ego as well as their reputation among their friends.

Revenge is best served calculated
It’s not just men who cheat, some women cheat too and if a man finds out that his partner cheated on him, he may feel that the only way to get revenge is to do the same to her. Men who find themselves in this situation think that by cheating on their girlfriend they will even the score.

Every dog has his day
Some men find cheating exciting and thrilling. They like the challenge of the chase and the thrill of getting what they want. Often they enjoy the secrecy and the sneaking around as it adds to the excitement.

We argue all the time
If he's not getting it at home sooner or later he's going to look for it elsewhere. Being unhappy, unfulfilled or in a turbulent relationship can lead men to cheat. These men see cheating as a temporary escape from their unhappy relationship.

When opportunity knocks
Ever wondered why powerful, rich and famous men feel the need to cheat? The rich and famous have everything they could ever want, money, success, fame and plenty of women willing to throw themselves at them. If something is constantly being offered to you, sooner or later you are going to take it. Men in the public eye find plenty of opportunities to cheat and they find it hard to resist temptation.

Cheating in statistics...
Some pretty interesting cheating facts shown below, especially the part about the ministers, Holy smokes!

Via: OnlineSchools.org

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  • Lost.in.Idaho said:  

    Some sad statistics.

    One of the reasons I got divorced is because my wife was cheating on me with one of her coworkers. It broke my heart to hear this.

    What's funny was, after she got caught, she tried to rectify things by having more sex with ME. Like that would fix things...

    I have thought about it, but never done it. I'd like to keep it that way.

  • Thank, Q said:  

    There are so many reasons. You've pretty much hit on all of them. This is a very good post. Whatever the reason, when it happens, things are a lot easier if the person cuts their losses short and move on.

  • Elle said:  

    Super interesting post!

  • kitkat said:  

    I have come to the conclusion that men just cnt do without lusting over other females. Its sad but true.

  • Alice X said:  

    @Lost.in.Idaho I'm sorry to hear that. That's kind of a messed up way to try and win forgiveness! I think you're right to leave well alone.

    @Thank Q Totally agree, moving on is the best thing!

    @Elle Thanks :)

    @Kitkat Yes it's biological i think, although women do their fare share too sometimes.

  • Alice X said:  

    @Lost.in.Idaho I'm sorry to hear that and i think that's a pretty messed up way to try and win forgiveness. I think you were right to leave well alone and move on.

    @Thank Q Yes i totally agree, moving on is the best way.

    @Elle Thanks =)

  • Desperate Housewife said:  

    Great post! keep it coming!But whatever the reason was, one thing for sure, a lot of pain and heartaches especially if they have kids. Margaret

  • Alice X said:  

    @Desperate Housewife Thank you! Yes when there's kids involved it must be much harder.

  • Toni Rose said:  

    Dear Alice,

    hope you could also do a version of the otherwise! :))

    i.e. Why do Girls Cheat! :)

  • Alice X said:  

    @Toni Rose Great idea! I might do that sometime, i wonder how different the reasons will be from men.

  • Toni Rose said:  

    Dear Alice,

    I'll give you a head start...

    Not because it's coming from experience okay! LOL

    Most likely because women are more on emotional needs. While for men, it's physical.

    A friend told me once...

    For men if a girl cheats, they value more if there was physical contact rather than if the girl had feelings for the other man.

    For girls, they value more if the guy had feelings for the other woman than the physical contact.

    maybe value aint the correct word, but rather which is more forgiving or the weigh of the wrongful doing...

    lol anyway according to my boyfriend when i asked him "which do you want, to be cheated because of emotions or because of physical"

    he's like NONE! hahahaha

    i dont know what's the basis of that idea though, but it must come from somewhere! :))

    looking forward to what you'll be writing about it! lemme know! :)


  • Alice X said:  

    @Toni Sounds like you know your stuff! I agree that it's more about an emotional connection with women and a physical one for men.

    I who to come to if i get stuck writing it.

  • Toni Rose said:  

    Dear Alice,

    Did you mean you know who to come to? :))

    Lol... Anyway... Probably my psychology background and reading all those cosmopolitan articles paid off after all. :))

  • Alice X said:  

    @Toni Yeah! Cosmo is my Bible!

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  • Anonymous said:  

    i agree everyone has their own opion but agree with lost in idaho yes women do cheat as well as men so both are at fault

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