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Prince Charming on Internet: Really?

Monday, 30 January 2012 Leave a Comment





Image Source by Don Hankins
Online dating has proven to be worthwhile for some people. Same goes for me. They have not only found true love but also, in some cases, have decided to take the relationship to the next level. Some people, who have not been very lucky in establishing relationships in real life have finally been successful through Internet. Whatever the reason, the success rate shows it is at least worth giving a chance.
However, finding your soul mate on through a virtual medium, may not always be a happy experience. There are a lot of issues which need attention before you take the plunge. Read on to find out about some of these issues regarding online dating. If you have already planned to find love on net, this article will help better prepare you.
1. Wearing a mask 
Perhaps one of the greatest dangers of online dating is dishonesty. Most of the time, the reality is hidden or embellished to increase the value of the ad. What you see, isn't always what you get. Even photographs of the person may not be real and it can be very hard to tell otherwise. All you can do is to check for any signs, such as old photographs or strange backgrounds to indicate that the posted photograph is a fake one. Treat online dating like a blind date, be prepared for the worst, whilst still hoping for the best.
2. Don't judge a book by its cover 
It's quite difficult to judge a person based on still photographs or textual communication. You need to interact with the person face to face to gauge their behaviour. A person's appearance can reveal a lot of things that are not possible to determine through an online profile. Also, in most of the cases, the poster may leave out certain details about themselves which may be significant to initiate a relationship. A certain level of chemistry is essential to make the relationships work and meeting face to face will confirm if there are any real sparks between you!
3. The distant lover 
Undoubtedly, distance can spoil a relationship and the same goes for online dating. You need to consider distance when looking for a potential relationship and the best way to deal with this is to use the distance filter available on the dating site. This way you will only receive matches who are located close to you. 
4. Be safe 
Safety is a major concern when it comes to dating online. Being alert and using common sense is a must. With many posters only interested in flirting, it has become essential to maintain your privacy. Simple steps such as keeping the address of your residence a secret and arranging your initial dates in public are good precautionary measures. Like everything in life it's better to be safe than sorry and make sure you take precautions. Telling a loved one where you are going and arranging to be picked up at a certain time are good ways to help you stay safe.
5. The best things in life are free?
Unfortunately, online dating isn't one of them. Most online dating sites have specific charges for membership and some charge extra for updating your profile or receiving information. Be sure to read the terms and conditions before signing up to a dating site, even a free dating site to check for hidden costs.
Conclusion: 
Love can be planned and you can look for it, but it can take time. If you are looking for your perfect mate online then a good tip is to be choosy, concentrate on fewer profiles and only choose people who appear to have the qualities you're looking for. Remember that fools rush in and that being careful is the best thing to save you from getting hurt. Happy dating; you never know, you might just find your Prince Charming waiting for you!
About the author: Alyssa Clarke is a kindergarten teacher by profession and a passionate blogger. These days she is busy doing research on baby monitors. Amongst her accessories, she is fond of her cell phone, Casio watches, pretty bracelets and her iPod. 

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  • Lost.in.Idaho said:  

    Often, if it is too good to be true, it probably is.

    I'm probably the only exception to this rule. Ladies, I'm awesome, and I'm real. :)

  • Krissy said:  

    I would also suggest arranging a set time to the loved one who knows where you are meeting so that if you don't check in they know something might be up. Of course, there's the hope that you'll be having so much fun that you forget, but it's just an extra precaution. And letting the person you are meeting know you've taken these precautions is often a good check of whether or not they really care about you. If they do, they won't mind someone else checking up on your safety.

    I've tried to explain to people in my life that meeting someone online is just as much a way of taking a chance as meeting a stranger anywhere else. There's just as big a chance of meeting a slime ball or jerk as you can online, although I haven't really pursued it online in a long time. It's changed a lot, but probably for the better.

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  • Neurotic Workaholic said:  

    This is all great advice, especially the part about dishonesty. I once went on a date with a guy who didn't look anything like he did in his pictures, because the pictures had obviously been taken several years ago. I've also noted that some guys post high school pictures of themselves, even though they're now in their thirties; I know they're high school pictures because their one or two other pictures show them as being significantly older.
    I've also learned to be suspicious of the guys who write very little (or nothing at all) about themselves in their profiles. It makes me think that they've either got something to hide, or they are only on the site for one thing and aren't even willing to make an effort to write at least a paragraph about themselves.

  • melissa said:  

    For me I have had good experiences with this. They all seemed true to profile..all looked the same in their picture. I am not saying they were all amazing catches but none of them were so bad that I have to slam who they were. Over all online dating was something I enjoyed.

    I actually met my husband through a dating website. 2 months into it I knew he was the one I was going to marry

  • Anonymous said:  

    i have gone thru many girls online and some of them who seemed to rush in with their body photos came out to be dishonest and as per my expectations asked money to come to me.

    But now, thanks to God, i have found my heart in an online site only... its the previous experiance that has got me to meet her. So i would say if the other person is not honest to you alteast you remain honest because thats the way you can filter everybody.

    Kind Regards,

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