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Can You Still Date On A Shoe String Budget?

Friday, 17 February 2012 3 comments

Photo credit: mconnors from morguefile.com

It is a material world out there, full of lonely singles keen to put themselves out there but unsure how to do it at all, or are just completely terrified to make moves in the right direction for fear that they will be knocked-back for not looking the best, not being cool enough or not having the cash to make up for either one of these.

Money is a tricky subject when it comes to dating; you don’t want to look like you’re showing off if you have money, and you don’t want to look too thrifty if you don’t, so how can you look good without forking out for overly expensive meals, cocktails and activities?

Average Date?
It is a bit silly to try and work out how much an average date will cost, but let’s try anyway, as it will give us a nice starting point to see where savings can be made:

  • New outfit - £100
  • Dinner - £60
  • Club - £30
  • Alcohol - £80
  • Taxi - £20
          Total: £290

That seems like an awful lot to spend on someone whom you may not know that well yet, but it is probably what a lot of people spend. Even split evenly it is a lot of money.

Cost Cutting Simplicity
The first thing you need to do in order to start saving money on dating is to think outside the box. Far too many people blindly trek along on boring dates with no imagination that involves drinking or maybe sitting in a dark cinema not talking. Here are some alternative dates that cost nothing, will be much more romantic and get your relationship off to a much better start.

  • Walk in the park – Don’t be afraid to suggest something really simple like this. You get to spend real time together talking and getting to know each other, not distracted by booze and other people. It’s free and will progress your emotional relationship further than any drunken fumble.
  • Online deal – Why spend more than you have to on a night out. Check out the many online offer sites for a good deal in your area. It doesn’t even need to be a meal; it could be a random cruise on the local river, a driving experience or a hot air balloon ride. The more random the better as it will make it so much more memorable.
Think outside the dating box and you will soon see how you can easily save money and have an even better time.

What is your idea of a perfect date?

Sammy Foot is UK dating enthusiast. She regularly explores dating websites UK in order to find new and exciting people.

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Money can buy me love: The real cost of Valentine's Day

Sunday, 12 February 2012 4 comments

The Economics of Valentines Day
Via: Online MBA Blog

As the 'Hallmark Holiday' approaches, many of us will be scouring the shops for a special gift to give our loved ones. Let's face it, we all like receiving gifts but does a specific date have to dictate that? According to the above infographic, the answer is firmly yes. I guess you can buy love after all.

Over the next few days many of us will be happily parting with our hard earned cash, in return for numerous 'I heart you' cards and other tacky Valentine's Day crappery. All in order to prove our love to one another. When, in reality, i suspect a kiss on the cheek and the words "I love you" would suffice.

Love is free! An emotion we, as humans are capable of expressing for others at no monetary cost.

Right, must dash, I'm off to purchase a giant Gorilla teddy to tell The Boyfriend that I'm 'bananas over him'.

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Dating after divorce

Thursday, 9 February 2012 3 comments

Anyone who has been recently divorced knows, it can leave you feeling extremely low and questioning why things happened as they did. Could you have done more to avoid it? Were you not affectionate enough? How did the communication breakdown? And when did the love end – or has it?

The hardest part for many people to come to terms with, is the fact that they will no longer be spending the rest of their life with the person they had planned to grow old with. It can be even harder when you’ve brought up a family together, or gone through hardships that you thought would make the relationship stronger.

However, some things aren’t meant to last and one of the worst and traumatic experiences can be the long divorce settlement process that you have to endure. This can be extremely taxing on couples, families and even friends. But once the dust has settled, what do you do next?

Many people believe that a divorce means the end of their love life, especially if they’ve spent a large part of their adult life with one partner. A lack of confidence is often an issue for many people and the thought of getting back on the dating scene can be daunting.

If you don’t want to jump straight back into the dating game and start looking for a future partner, you don’t have to - nobody is forcing you. Take some time to come to terms with your current situation and plan for the future. One healthy way to focus the mind is to take up a hobby, or rekindle an old passion that you couldn’t do while you were married. For instance, if you wanted to start a new hobby like dancing, it could give you the opportunity to mix with new people, allowing you to grow in confidence and prepare you for dating again.

At some point friends and family members will encourage you to “get off the shelf” and in some instances they will set up blind dates for you. If this is the case, why not go? It could be worthwhile, if only to help build your confidence and assess how far you’ve come since your divorce. You could end up enjoying yourself more than you thought you would.

Alternatively, attending a speed dating night with a couple of friends can also be fun and enjoyable. The process isn’t what it used to be – and many people do go to these events. Often these sessions are a good opportunity to test the water and meet new people.

I’m not suggesting you should replace the love that you felt for someone, but it is about moving on with your life. It probably seems impossible to match the love you once had for your ex-spouse. However, it is important not to compare what could be something new, to what you had in the past.

It is best not to rush into the dating game once you have been divorced, but instead ride the crest of a wave and see where life leads you. Make the decisions that are best for you and your lifestyle – and who knows you could come across a new love.

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